Fear and Relationships

This article describes the story of changing thoughts of a lover towards his beloved, how he received his peace and how his point of view, got changed with improvement in understanding the scenarios. The first two paras define his emotional outrages then other lines define his understanding which led him to his decision resulting in his peace later on.

You just expect your man to stay barehanded in front of you always so you may cut him into several pieces of flesh anytime you wish. Men are not made of steel or iron; they also keep the little flesh in the middle of the chest just below their throat, which also gets faster whenever they are emotional. 

They are not made up of something like emotionless flesh. God used the same flesh to make them as well. He had put the same feelings into him. 

So, If someone says he loves you or like you, don't accept all the time because It would be against your freedom but yeah don't insult them, don't make them feel inadequate, at least respect their guts to propose you, respect that they loved someone who is you, don't even judge them if you can't understand them. Don't make them feel humiliated.

Loving someone needs a lot of good things in you, a positive attitude and many more.

These were words of a man to a woman whom he loved and received abuse and abused her in return until he discovered the below-written things which filled him with peace in the end.

Might be you had also gone through something like the same. It helped one may help you too in finding who is more miserable you or the another in your relationship. May emotions of pity and prayer arise in you for him/her. 

The primary emotion of love is peace which has other emotions as well as care, affection. These all things come together so if one says he loves you which means he does care for you then there is affection as well. 

Don't invoke fear in them by arising desires in your mind.

Once you will invoke fear in them by showing your disrespect by showing your desire to be with them or might be by your dissatisfaction with them.

If you are not peaceful being with them/he/she if you tell he/she/them to feel any changes in your routine behaviour being with them/he/she and they/he/she found some changes in you then check yourself something inside you is leaving you. That is nothing else than peace.

Just leave them silently by just saying I don't feel the same.

If he wouldn't have peace being with you then you wouldn't be in peace with him.

Invocation of fear is the end of a relationship, it will give thousands of reasons to stay away from the person you feel fear of.

How stronger your bonding was with that person earlier it doesn't matter.

You will be gradually losing that person.

There would be no attachment left in you for him.

Things will be changing for you and him. the result will be a painful separation if you will try to get the relationship you had earlier with him.

It is all the process of your emotions that keep going on within you.

There are only two emotions, primarily like and dislike.

Likes and dislikes are two sons of desire or you may say two different sides of the same coin.

The desire of happening, what you like and the desire of not happening, what you dislike. 

The desire of happening, what you like invokes love, care, affection for others in you. It leads to happiness.

While the desire of not happening, what you dislike arises fear which invokes insecurity, anxiety, anger, eagerness and hate for others in you. It leads to pain.

How these emotions derive your behaviour let's find out with me here.

Desire's one son dislikes ending up with pain.

In the first case, the desire of not happens things. This is how your emotions lead to your behaviour which results in pain.

Dislike < Fear < insecure < Anxiety < Avoid < eagerness < anger < Hate < pain

Share your fear before it ends your relationship with pain.

In the second case, The desire for things to happen. This is how your emotions lead to your behaviour which results in happiness.

Like < Peaceful < affection < care < protect < love < happiness 

This is how emotions decide what will be your behaviour towards one.

Your likes and dislikes come in this way, by way of expressing things. The way they are written in your memory. The authority is you who is accepting these things which sometimes come in the form of rules by the society or sometimes some books or sometimes your own experiences. 

What you feel is either peace or fear. 

This fear eats the relationships. How good it is doesn't matter. 

Father’s expectations from son/daughter 

Mother's expectations from are son/daughter 

Wives or beloved expectations from her lover. 

The fear of failure and defame in the society of the son makes the father furious, anguished towards his son. Same in the case of the daughter. 

The same thing happens with the mother. 

The same thing with the beloved.

This is how the chain dislikes his/her activities then fear then continued till the hate.

Every relationship is bound with this thing, they expect in return, they do what they can do, to get the results of their desire of happening thing what they like. 

If things come of dislike they get furious which end up the harmony. 

When things come of dislike we fill ourselves with fear which harms our upcoming new relationships.

It is the process of endless demands you have from the person who wishes to be with you.

He would keep giving, you would keep hurting.

You will regret doing it later, but you will keep doing it.

Because our brain does every possible thing to protect us from any harm any injury.

If someone does so with you, leave him/her at that same moment. He/she is in fear when coming out of it you will be able to see him/her again.

One who doesn't fear from you and wishes to me in your life will find at least a reason to come back to stay hopeful that moment would not come late to him/her.

Do things voluntary to others.

To avoid innovation of desires in you because the chain of emotions will start then like, dislike who knows how it will end up with you.

If you are doing things voluntarily, you will surely get happiness in the end.

Ignore the people who put you in any kind of fear by saying anything because there is never "If", If anyone wants to be in your life he/she must be lying to you and himself/herself too. 

There are no excuses ever, they will find at least a reason to stay If they want to be in your life.

Credit to one of the strangers I recently met on social site @from Kashmir